Confidence Wears All
People ask me all the time why I’m a stylist. A lot of people think it has to do with the fact that I love fashion, and that’s partially true, but more than that, I love helping people find their confidence.
While style is directly related to your clothes, it’s so much more than that. Clients who’ve worked with me will tell you, I’m not about the labels, or the hottest trends (however, if I find the label or trend at an exceptional price, stay outta my way!). I’m about my client.
When I’m styling people, I’m not worried about anything other than how my client FEELS. It is my belief that when we feel our best, we DO our best – and that’s what style is all about.
So, how do we get there? Well, that’s a great question. I’ve listed 3 guidelines below to help you in your quest for confidence and confidence in your style.
Forget Size, Focus on Shape
You’ve heard me say it a BILLION times before…it’s not about size. 75% of the male population has a size 40 waist, and 75% of the female population is a size 14 – so, let’s not get carried away with size. For me and my clients, it’s about shape. Women who dress in the wrong silhouettes, no matter how thin can end up looking much fuller than they are, and women who are fuller can appear much more slim when wearing the right shapes. So forget the number and focus on silhouette!
Stop Trying to Hide, Start Learning to Enhance
It’s a general rule of thumb; If all you focus on is the bad, that’s all you’re ever going to see. I never ask clients what they don’t like about themselves, I ask what they love. I find that when we try to hide our imperfections, it leads us down a rabbit hole of our (perceived) imperfections. If I ask a client what they don’t like about themselves, you can trust that they’ll give me an endless list. I like to work the other way; what are your favorite parts of you? What do people most compliment you on? Stop focusing on the negative and what you want to hide, and turn your attention to what’s great about you, and what you want to enhance. Start thinking about ways to play up your best features and draw attention to them, rather than hiding in your clothes. We all have the things we like about ourselves, but somehow it’s easier to focus in on what we hate. Stop hiding, start enhancing! Just by way of focusing on the good, you’ll see that your mood and attitude about yourself, your clothes, and your style will start to change. Any time the good is our point of interest; it’s going to have an entirely different outcome than if we’re laser focused on the bad.
I have really kind clients (the best, actually) and something that they say to me is; I love what you’re wearing, I wish I could “pull that off”. While it’s really a sweet thing to say, it’s wrong. Anyone can “pull off” anything. Granted, leather pants may not be your style or aesthetic, but that doesn’t mean you can’t wear them and rock them. My point is, if there is something you love, something that you FEEL and look great in, who’s to say it’s not for you? I’m not talking about things that are inappropriate (be it age, to revealing, etc) I’m talking about things you just may not be used to; patterns, bright colors, statement jewelry, different fabrics, etc. There are a lot of things that are within people’s style aesthetic, that are appropriate, and look great that they still feel they can’t “pull off”. It’s nonsense! Stop thinking that something you love can’t be for you just because it’s a bit more daring than usual. I’ll tell you what, I’ve worn a few pieces that are REALLY out there, and when people tell me “I love that, but I can’t pull it off” all it says to me is that I’m wearing it with confidence. The idea of pulling something off means one thing and one thing only; it’s being worn with confidence. If you’re wearing something with your head held high, trust that you’re pulling it off. So remember, the difference between whether or not you’re pulling something off is the difference between wearing something with confidence and not.
We’re almost at the New Year! If you’re looking to find your confidence this year, and could use a little help, drop me a note! firstname.lastname@example.org